TOXIC FAMILY

 Growing up we were all taught that you put your family above all. We were all taught that nobody can love you more than your mother and your father, that their love for you is unconditional and purest of all. When no one else has your back but your family will.

As I have become older, this line of thinking has significantly changed for me. If that truly is the case, and families love is unconditional, then why backstabbing and jealousy comes from someone who's described that way.

NOT ONE SCAR ON MY HEART CAME FROM AN ENEMY THEY ALL CAME FROM PEOPLE WHO "LOVE" ME.

We got to put up with bullshit behavior from our family members. Cutting ourselves off from them is the only solution for this. And when I say cutting off, it's for lifetime, because they are all experts in backstabbing. 

The initial days of separation are going to be difficult for you because your gonna receive all sorts of emotional blackmails asking you to come back. And once your back, it all begins again, that same torture, your mom playing the victim card, you being blamed for everything, it all will happen again.  So, DON'T GO BACK.

HOW TO IDENTIFY A TOXIC FAMILY

They always make you feel like you are an UNWANTED member in the family.

They always make you feel like your an outsider.

They avoid you on purpose and have good time when there all together and as soon as you enter the room, there's silence.

They go to places without you, they have a friends group where they talk bad about you and praise your siblings. 

They might behave like loving people but whenever there's an outsider, oh my god, they just love, they just enjoy talking bad about you. You can call it their favorite thing to talk negative and complain about you and express it in front of others how much they are troubled because of you. Their words clearly demonstrate that they hate every single thing related to you.

HOW TO SURVIVE WITHIN THE TOXIC FAMILY

When you don't have any other option but to stay within the toxic family, be vigilant. Don't talk much, don't laugh much, don't mingle with them. Fix this in your brain that you have to GO THROUGH THIS. Be ready for any situation. They will keep blaming you, insulting you and discouraging you. If anything positive happens then it's something to worry about. If it's all hatred and negativity, then nothing to worry everything is going good.

Have a very tough and strong mind. What I mean when I say strong mind, keep things to yourself, don't share any emotions with them, be it success or failure. Draw a line around your heart and don't let anyone cross it. Seek God's protection. Everyday keep confessing- I cover myself with the blood of Jesus and I cancel every demonic activity being plotted against me. In Jesus name Amen.

Focus on your education, your future and secure it financially. Make some really good friends. These REAL GOOD FRIENDS don't just descend from heaven. You have to invest in them. Invest your love, your time, your help. What you sow that you reap. Show them that your a friend they can count on and be sure they are someone whom you can count on. Don't be naive in regards to giving favors to people, always maintain a give and take relationship. If that's not happening cut it off immediately. You tell your friend clearly that you want such relationship- you be there for me in times of need and I'll be there for you, otherwise just keep it light.

You will make good friends in life with whom you have a soulful relationship and they are just one phone call away from you. At least, I pray that everyone has at least one such friend in their lives.

When you start to earn money, don't let them know the exact amount you earn. Always hide your salary details. Keep it secret. It's absolutely ok to lie, it's not a sin. It's called survival skill. Once you start earning you will see all the tactics devil can play through your family to snatch it from you and let it go in waste. 

BE CAREFUL WHEN YOU'RE ALONE IN HOME WITH ANY ONE OF THEM

It's easy to attack a lonely sheep than to attack the full flock. Evil spirits never never want to let go of this situation. And when everyone arrives, the picture is cooked up like it's all YOUR FAULT. The best part of it, nobody asks you how you are feeling or what did the other person say or do to you. The situation is presented like you are the wrong one and they believe, that's it. 

Avoid going on vacations with them. What happens when you go is that your soul is troubled to an extent that you want to run away from them and that place. But your naive and without money, helpless. And in that desperate situation where you have no where to go, not knowing what to do, surrounded with people who hate you and absolutely love to see you tormented, you loose yourself, it leaves you broken from the inside. DEVIL LOVES TO SEE YOU IN THAT CONDITION. Evil spirits make sure you see that your family is laughing and giggling and enjoying life while you are left to cry and suffer. Devil will not allow all his planning and work to go futile, he is gonna make sure you are left broken, shamefaced and confused. What exactly does the devil gain from all of this- your faith in God is broken. You loose your will and zeal to walk ahead in life with hope. Your left with unanswered questions in your mind. A distance is created between your God and you. Then he keeps coming with questions, why did your God allow this to happen to you? , isn't God watching you, then why didn't he protect you? doesn't he care about you? "Word of God must be fake then".

Once you get yourself freed from them, you will see evil spirits working desperately to get you back to them. Because with them it was easy to attack you and now they have to search for a different source. 

Don't fall for the calls to come back. Don't believe when they say they miss you, or that they have realized their mistake. Don't believe when they say, "we never thought that it could hurt you so much". Don't believe when they say that they are sick and that they miss you and want to see you. It's all a trap. Believe me every word they spoke was intentional and it was to hurt you. Thought the source of this resentment is evil, but without them encouraging those thoughts devil would have done nothing to you.

Free yourself from them. Enjoy your life to the fullest. It's much better to be alone than with a family that enjoys seeing you cry.